Intimate things that men love but won't tell you. From a male's perspective.

Let the wife make her husband glad to come home and let him make her sorry to see him leave. ~Martin Luther

I'm going to tell you two reasons that sparked my interest in creating a blog about sex, marriage, and relationships.

My wife came home one night and told me about a co-worker who told her something she had discovered a few nights before. The coworker told her "Do you know what you can do to take your love life to the next level? Go to bed naked." When wifey said that to me we both chuckled. Well duh. Funny. What's one person's eureka is another person's commonplace.

The second reason is that I read blog posts and look at videos on sex and relationships. In my opinion, many of these content creators do not know what men really want.

The Problem

Content writers on relationships create these lists of things men wish women knew in the bedroom. Most posts seem to be drafted by women or men who have never been in relationships. I can assume posts were written in a PG-13 framework because these writers do not delve into some people's deepest sexual desires. Maybe that dark side should be kept there in the dark and not be brought to the surface but there are three things that I believe that if women acknowledge and accept they can take their sex life with their husbands to another level.

Let us know what you want.

I read a blog post stating that men want you to be verbal, meaning your man wants you to be screaming and calling out his name, but can you do that if you are not getting anything out of it? No content writer I've seen to this date talks about this.

Tell us what you want so you do get something out of it. For example:

Do you want us to go slow first? Tells us.

Do you want us to stay at a certain tempo? Tell us.

Do you want to be in a certain position? Tell us.

Do you want us to just take it? Tell us.

Sex is not all about him.

Worship the c**k.

Women. Do this and thank me later in the comment section. Here at Clouds & Rain, we use euphemisms to identify men's and women's genitalia. We refer to the man's implement as the ambassador.

Worship the ambassador?

How do you do that?

Some examples. Some may work, some may not.

• Well, you know how some men like to grab you on the behind when you walk by? Gently hold him by the ambassador in a flirtatious manner.

• If you two are in the bed he's not doing anything he's lying on his back watching TV, lay on his chest stroking the ambassador gently you may want to blow the flute if it's clean down there; have a conversation with him while you're doing it or don't have a conversation at all; most alpha males testosterone would go up to a few deciliters if you do this.

I once saw a video of a woman asking some relationship/sex expert how can she get him to go multiple times. He said the same thing, "worship the c**k."

Another thing we love.

Blowing the Flute

I've read some blog posts emphasizing how men want women to initiate sex. Not really. Men with a sex drive wish the women in their lives would do one thing without asking.

Do you know why? First, we do not have to do anything. Second, the orgasmic experience from blowing the flute done right is more powerful in my opinion than actual intercourse.

Ladies try this, ( if you don't know if he hasn't showered) one night tell him "Go clean up I got something for you". When he lays down follow these instructions. Do your thing make him tap out, help with the clean up, get back in the bed, lean over kiss him, tell him good night, and go to sleep.

If you have never done that before, most common men will ask "What the hell just happened?" A woman who can do this from time to time is less likely to have a man with a side piece or an OnlyFans subscription.

Conclusion

I heard a saying once, "Life is simple, it's people that make it hard. The common man is not that complicated when it comes to sex. You know your man. Explore. Find what he likes and doesn't like. Make your man glad to come home.